There's a reason why, for the first time in a very long while, I have to post something here on my account. Doing this so, I expect that this would reach that particular person whom this post is for. Perhaps people would consider the thought of me confronting the person involved through a personal message instead of making him like a blind item like this, however, he has gone extreme already– beyond what I could imagine, and not naming him is my way of dismissing his existence because a person like him doesn't deserve to be called by his name, but with names like HYPOCRITE, COWARD, AND TRASH.
Yesterday, I was greeted by Mama's puffy eyes as she went home from her duty in
barangay. I thought it was a usual day for her, but when she went to me
fighting off that weep of tears in her eyes... I almost cried. She told me
about this person who, for more than a year already, has been targeting her
with sexist and rude remarks. I tried to brush it off as I thought "What
can I expect from a scumbag?" but as she told me more, my heart got
heavier with anger and hatred to that person. Ah why I was surprised that a
scumbag can stoop even lower than his level?
Mama was brave enough to denounce it in barangay as she's had enough already of
his bullshit, however, his defense was it wasn't his bullshit it was just ONLY
A JOKE. BIRO LANG DAW. What a joke, indeed!
"Hindi ka naman kagandahan...""Ginapang mo lang siguro ang asawa mo""Hindi ka nakapagtapos ng pag-aaral...""Nakikita pa kitang naka-panty nung bata ka pa"
So, these were supposed to be taken as a JOKE? Ito yung dinedepensa niya na
biro lang, however, kahit anong banda ko tignan walang nakakatawa. And jokes
are not intended to be used that way: to discrimate. This is not funny to begin
with. How this is supposed to be funny, trash? What is funnier than these
bullshits is he knows LITERALLY what's going on with our lives– past and
present. Who is his source? I don't care that much. What bothers more than
anything is the fact that he uses all the information he found out about kay
Mama and turned it against her in the form of pathetic rumors.
He even scowled at Mama for not liking his FB posts and has been *joking*
around kung bakit hindi raw nanlilibre si Mama?
What I could not understand is how he could make such jokes to Mama when they
are not even close and has been doing it for more than a year already? And if
even they are close (and thank god they're not), he's old enough to weigh those
remarks if it's amusing or not . And he was even angry na pinabarangay siya ni
Mama then let me tell you this I was beyond proud na ginawa yun ni Mama sa
kanya. I was beyond proud that Mama knows when to stop something unacceptable,
and beyond proud for standing up for herself.
While I am on my proudest moment as a daughter, I am also beyond shameful after
knowing that he doesn't need my mother's vote since tatakbo siya sa barangay.
How can someone as trashy as him runs for a spot sa barangay? The way he treats
my mother speaks volume, if he can do that to a person especially a woman how
can we be sure that every woman is safe from someone like him? He doesn't even
know what is a joke and what is not.
He has said a lot of hurtful words to Mama. Hearing it while I was on my
shift, made me lost my focus. His "jokes" are not funny, they are
never gonna be funny, they are all infuriating. And never blame a person for
not taking your jokes with your own standard of joke, we have our own level of
sensitivity and if your joke is not funny to them then that's an enough sign to
stop and apologize. If you keep going, thinking that it isn't your fault that
they don't know how to handle such extreme jokes, you're problematic.
Paulit-ulit na nirerecall ko lahat ng mga pinagsasabi niya kay Mama and I
couldn't even imagine how she managed to keep her cool. Just hearing it from
her made me already crumpled with so much anger, what more sa kanya? It breaks
my heart that it has been happening for a long time and it was only yesterday
that I found out about this mistreatment. It breaks my heart that she has been
withstanding all of these alone. And I wouldn't budge whatever would happen
next, I am posting here on FB hoping to spread awareness on such important
issues. Rape remarks, sexist humors and jokes that demean women and other
minority groups in whatever form will never be funny from whatever angle one
tries to see it.
SEE IT AS IT IS. NAME IT. STOP IT.