6/12/25

I'll Come Back to You: A Not-So Review of Green Bones

6/12/2025

Since I had nothing else to do after my Wink appointment, I had already decided a few days earlier that I would go to the cinema. I read that the Metro Manila Film Festival had extended the showing of some selected films until the 14th of January, and I didn’t want to miss this last chance to catch at least one entry from the lineup.

Out of all the entries, I chose to watch Green Bones.

A few days ago, I came across some Instagram reels showing both lead actors taking home major acting awards. On top of that, the film itself won the most-coveted award: Best Picture. Honestly, I hadn’t even heard of Green Bones until I saw those reels—and if it weren’t for the awards they received, I probably wouldn’t have been interested in watching it in the cinema. I’m not really familiar with GMA Films. I’ve kind of been brainwashed by the media into thinking their movies aren’t that great. So if you asked me to name one, I couldn’t. I grew up watching films under Star Cinema. I do know all the actors, especially the leads, from their drama roles, but I’ve never really seen them as the kind of performers who could completely pull you in with their acting.

I was initially planning to watch The Uninvited because of the hype I saw on Twitter. The trailer boasted a star-studded cast: Vilma Santos, Aga Muhlach, and Nadine Lustre. And knowing these actors, they usually pick quality films. But I lost interest when I found out that it didn’t even make it to the Top 4 Best Picture awardees—it only won Best Float, which has nothing to do with the actual film.

My next choice was The Kingdom, mainly because I was intrigued by the unexpected pairing of Piolo Pascual and Vic Sotto. I was impressed that Vic Sotto was making a comeback to the MMFF, this time stepping away from his usual fantasy-comedy niche. 

But when I made the conscious effort to check out some Reddit reviews about Green Bones, I was convinced. The majority said it deserved all the awards it won—the actors were a revelation, the film was absolutely worth watching, and GMA Films is finally starting to make a name for itself. People said it was the kind of film that could finally rival Star Cinema and that it bravely tackled the deeply messed-up social justice system in the country. That was it for me—I knew this would be my pick.

Green Bones is the first film I watched in the cinema this year—and it was worth it.

Coming into it, I let go of all my expectations. I pushed aside all the reviews I had read on Reddit. I wanted to come in with a clean slate so I could experience it as it was, without anyone else’s influence. I let my feelings lead the way, to put it simply.

All throughout the film, one line stuck with me—even from the onset of the story:

"I’ll come back to you."

A line I believe became the central theme of the film. It anchored the lives of the characters, as we slowly realized that life isn’t just black and white.

"I’ll come back to you."

Words that many thought were a threat—but as the story unraveled, we saw it was actually a pledge. And in the end, they became someone’s final words.

I'll Come Back to You: The Threat

The movie opened bleakly, with heavy rain pouring down, dimming the sleeping narrows of Manila’s pavements. In the distance, the blaring siren of a police car echoed through the deep night, as the screen was soon graced by the escaping feet of a man they called Crazy Dom. He stood on a bridge, facing the void ahead, earnestly communicating through hand signs. When translated into words, they revealed a brief yet haunting phrase: Babalikan ko kayo!I’ll come back to you. A phrase the police immediately interpreted as a threat—for catching him and putting him behind bars.

No one knew exactly when he would come back. That’s why the police remained wary of him, always on guard, thinking Crazy Dom was just waiting for the right moment to strike back.

Then the film shifted to the present, told through the voice of a young and passionate prison officer, Xavier Gonzaga, as he set foot in the penal colony of San Fabian—an open-air facility housing inmates charged with unimaginable crimes. It was there that Crazy Dom had been exiled, and where the two would finally meet.

The flashback prologue, at least for me, was a strong hook. From the very start, I was drawn in. Like Xavier, I found myself asking: What happened to Crazy Dom that he turned mute? Was he really threatening the police? Did he really murder his sister?

Did he really murder his sister?—this question probably struck Xavier the hardest. He, too, had a sister who was murdered. That loss became his driving force to become a prison officer, and it led him to San Fabian, especially upon learning of the impending release of Crazy Dom—the man who, according to records, had murdered his own sister.

The first part of the film was told through Xavier’s narration, so the story was framed through his perspective. And that perspective was heavily shaped by the crime reports, by rumors he'd grown up hearing, and by his own grief and trauma. Having lost a sister he loved deeply, he couldn’t wrap his head around the fact that Dom had the supposed audacity to take the life of his own.

I understood why Xavier became so emotional whenever Dom was around—but at times, it felt like he was too intense, to the point that he lost sight of his duty as a prison officer. Throughout this part of the film, his eyes were locked on Dom, watching his every move, always on edge, just waiting for a slip-up. He was desperate to find any evidence—anything powerful enough to revoke the release Dom had long been awaiting. A release that Xavier was determined to block, convinced Dom didn’t deserve it.

But everything soon began to change when he met Betty.

I'll Come Back to You: The Pledge

Here—at the same time as Xavier—we learn that the phrase “I’ll come back to you” was never a threat, not to the police or anyone else. It was actually a lifelong promise Dom made to his niece, Ruth—his late sister’s daughter.

By this point, the narration shifts to Dom’s perspective. We finally hear his side of the story, uncover the truth about the past, and begin to see the inner conflict building in Xavier as he realizes that his hatred toward Dom was unfounded. It was all the result of a broken justice system. Dom wasn’t a criminal. He didn’t kill his sister. He was a victim—one who had been wrongly accused and labeled the murderer.

To be honest, I already had a feeling from the beginning that Dom didn’t kill his sister. Realistically speaking, he's the main character—and usually in stories like this, when the protagonist ends up in prison, it turns out they were blamed for a crime they didn’t commit. They end up spending most of their life behind bars, paying for something they never did. So, the “reveal” in this part wasn’t exactly shocking or unexpected.

However, I still appreciated the way certain details from the past unfolded—especially those shared through Dom and Betty’s narration. There were moments I hadn’t anticipated, and those small surprises helped deepen the emotional weight of the story.

One detail that really stuck with me was that it was Ruth—his sister’s daughter—who taught Dom sign language.

That night, when the police found Dom on the bridge and assumed he was making a threat, he was actually making a vow to Ruth and Betty. They were somewhere nearby, hiding—afraid that Ruth’s father would find her. So Dom entrusted Ruth to Betty for her safety, making that promise with his hands: “I’ll come back to you.”

I'll Come Back to You: The Last Words

The flow of the film, at this point, honestly dipped a little for me because of how some scenes were handled, especially by the main characters. To be real, I was a bit disappointed with how Xavier seemed totally lost after finding out the truth about Dom. Of course, I felt a boost of excitement seeing them finally working together, going up against what Jonathan Cruz and Juanito Velasquez stood for. But it just felt kind of off to see Xavier get overshadowed during the fire scene. Like… where did all his police training go? Suddenly, it was Dom taking charge and leading the rescue while Xavier just stood there watching. That part didn’t sit well with me.

I also started to wonder if the sense of camaraderie in this fictional penal colony in San Fabian was being portrayed a little too idealistically. We were only shown its good side. It would’ve been more believable if the film also showed us other parts of prison life—the kind of inmates there, what they went through, where they came from, and how they ended up behind bars. I get that the focus was on Dom and his small circle, and that wasn’t bad at all, but I think it could’ve added more depth if we also saw the raw side of prison life, not just the injustice of the system.

Still, I really liked how things unfolded towards the end—especially the big reveal about Juanito Velasquez, the head of the colony. That twist worked well. It showed how the people we expect to serve justice can actually be the ones distorting it, especially when the victims are those without a voice, or worse, those who’ve been silenced—literally or figuratively.

In the end, I’d say the film gave us a satisfying wrap-up. I even found the last scene kind of witty. When Xavier visited Dom’s grave, he didn’t find the green bone he thought would be there. Instead, he found a crispy 100-peso bill buried in the soil. I think what that moment was trying to say is, it doesn't matter if someone’s bones are green or not. That’s never been a real measure of whether they were good or bad. The fact that it turned out to be money just added to the irony. And maybe that’s the point—life is full of irony, and sometimes, even in death, we still don't get the clear answers we think we deserve.

6/3/25

Lost in Starlight

6/03/2025

Nothing beats the feeling of starting a movie randomly on a day you least expected to watch, and yet to finish it with a bursting and uncontrollable happy buzz.

Although it wasn’t exactly random, I had been anticipating this movie after coincidentally finding it on the app while browsing for a new set of movies to add to my watchlist. From the trailer, I immediately downloaded an offline copy of it, only to find out upon watching that it hadn’t been released yet—it was only the trailer that I had saved to my library.

I didn’t know exactly how long I had waited for it to be available, but when I checked again last Sunday, the full movie was already out.

Then came Monday. The whole day seemed undecided on whether it would rain or shine, so both happened almost alternately throughout the day. I had just finished my daily practice on Duolingo for my Japanese language lessons, and I wasn’t particularly in the mood to take my usual after-work nap.

“Lost in Starlight!,” I suddenly exclaimed under my breath.

It was actually my first time watching an animated Korean film—if Solo Leveling doesn’t count. I had absolutely no expectations going into it. All I knew was that the voice actors were Kim Tae-Ri and Hong Kyung. That was enough to spark my curiosity. I remembered skimming the synopsis when I watched the trailer, but by the time I sat down to watch it, I had completely forgotten what it was about. Looking back, I think that worked in my favor. There’s a unique kind of joy in discovering something with a blank slate, without any idea of what you’re about to experience. It reminded me of the first time I watched Before Sunrise. I had stumbled upon it years ago while Googling “the greatest films of all time to watch before you die.” It was on one of those lists. I didn’t know anything about it, didn’t even bother reading the plot summary. I just trusted my instincts and pressed play.

Two hours later, I was still in front of the screen—completely moved. I had watched it in low quality on Facebook, but I didn’t care. I was heartbroken by how the story ended, not because it was tragic, but because it was so real. And yet, underneath all that, I felt euphoric. It was the first time I had ever truly loved a movie.

I felt like I had fallen in love—either right at that moment, or during the entire time I was watching it. I couldn’t even place the happiness I felt. It was something I had discovered on my own, without any recommendations or hype, and that made it even more special. I savored every scene, every piece of dialogue. I was stunned that a film—so simple, so stripped-down—could affect me so deeply. No dramatic twists, no flashy visuals. Just two people talking, a story that flowed naturally, moving steadily forward. And I loved every second of it.

And I felt this too after watching Lost in Starlight. I might sound hyperbolic—and I know I am—right now, riding the peak of that post-movie high. This film might not even be that good for others, but I'm speaking from the moment, and I want to capture that here in this blog. I want to document how great this film feels to me, despite the fact there are loads of animated romance films out there I could find and watch.

I’m telling you, it’s been ages since I last felt that “kilig” feeling—that tingling, sensational buzz you get from a romantic film. The last movie that really did that for me was Before Sunrise. After that? I honestly can’t remember if anything else ever hit the same way. And now here I am, gushing over the hopeless romantic vibe of this animated film.

Let me start with the animation. It reminds me of those cyberpunk-style images I see on Pinterest whenever I’m hunting for a new desktop wallpaper. It’s funky, 4K-ish, and has a touch of Spiderverse visuals—but with a Japanese anime twist. It’s not clumsy, where a character looks off when viewed from another angle. It’s polished, kinda dreamy, and clearly futuristic, which makes sense since it’s a romantic sci-fi film. The colors are bursting like a comic book, again giving me Spiderverse vibes. This film is legit high quality—and honestly, every shot looks like it’s made to be screenshot.

The story is definitely not new. When we talk about sci-fi, there are myriads of films—mostly Western—that come to mind. The first one I thought of was Interstellar. It was actually in the back of my mind while I was watching this. So the challenge, or at least what I had in mind early on, was: how could Lost in Starlight be different? What new thing could it offer that would make it stand out and have its own identity? Or would it just be another sci-fi-ish film trying to give yet another perspective on what life might be like in the future and the never-ending expedition into outer space?

To be honest, I actually liked how the film stayed grounded and didn’t get too ambitious in that part. Right from the start, it was clear they weren’t aiming for a full-on sci-fi plot with heavy jargon, random equations, or Einstein name-drops. It wasn’t like that at all. I’d say it’s more of a romantic film than a sci-fi one. The sci-fi elements are just in the background. So if you're expecting something like Interstellar but animated, this isn’t it. But if you’re in the mood to feel butterflies in your stomach, then this one’s for you.

I was seriously blushing while watching them—from start to end.

It didn’t even feel like they were animated. I saw them as real people. The gestures, the expressions, the little movements—it all felt real.

One scene that made me swoon was that night when they had to grab another Coke. They stopped somewhere, rested a bit, and just chitchatted. Nan-young asked Jay about his lifelong passion for music, and Jay said he was waiting for it to come back to him. Nan-young, listening intently, started moving her fingers like tiny footsteps—step by step, inching closer to his elbow resting on the railing. Then she said, “It’s coming back now to you.” Their tipsy faces, especially Jay’s—he was already blushing from her gestures—blushed even more. It was so subtle but it hit me hard.


There were actually several swoon-worthy moments throughout the film that I could talk about—but I’ll keep them to myself so I don’t spoil anything for anyone.

The story was set in 2066, which is about four decades from now. That made me pause and wonder: will I still be alive by then? If so, I’d be around 67 years old. Not too old, right?

What really stood out to me was how far technology had come in their world. There was an airborne public vehicle with a transparent body, and a wristwatch that looked way more advanced than anything we have now. I don’t even remember seeing anyone with a phone in their hand. It made me curious—what will happen to gadgets like our phones after a few more decades? Will they vanish completely, replaced by something we can’t even imagine yet?

One thing that fascinated me was their camera. It could summon the person you were calling, almost like they were there with you—invisible, but able to move around freely and see everything around you in 360 degrees. It felt both magical and slightly eerie.

These were just a few of the thoughts and observations I had while watching.

And then... came the OSTs! Don’t even get me started on those.

Obviously, music plays a big role in this movie, especially since Jay is a musician. I think that one scene where Nan-young played a demo song she accidentally found on Clouds—without knowing it was Jay’s—really marked the moment he realized he was doomed for her. Of all the people in the world, the chances were so slim, and yet the girl he happened to bump into while out on a delivery turned out to be the same person who had downloaded his song just minutes before he deleted it. And it wasn’t just any song—it was Nan-young’s favorite. Small world, right?

I haven’t listened to the full playlist yet. It’s not available on Spotify or even YouTube. Strangely, though, it is on Instagram. I found “Bon Voyage” when I tried adding music to a picture I posted. 

I couldn’t stop talking about how this movie made me feel. Right after watching it, I opened my Letterboxd app, gave it a glimmering 5 stars, and added it to my liked movies without a second thought.


One thing I allow myself when rating a movie is to go with how it made me feel. I don’t try to be too strict or overly objective. I don’t want to judge a film only by its structure, deeper themes, or the technical standards that supposedly make a film “great.” If it moves me, that’s enough.

It honestly makes me feel giddy whenever I find a movie that hits just right. It lifts my mood, makes my day, and even inspires me to write things like this.

Lost in Starlight is a well-made film—and truly impressive for South Korea’s first animated feature. Animation isn’t something the Korean industry is widely known for (yet), but I can see the ambition and heart behind this project. It’s the kind of movie you’ll want to share with your friends—which I already did.

5/30/25

The Room Next Door

5/30/2025

Imagine seeing an old friend for the first time in years—only to find out she’s dying. Now, what would you do if she asked you to stay in the room next to her until she decided to take her own life?

That haunting premise lies at the heart of The Room Next Door, a film that faintly sits in my memory from the buzz surrounding last year’s Oscars. As I was looking for yet another conversational film, I stumbled upon a list on Letterboxd where this film was included. The moment I felt I had settled in, with the familiar whirring of my two e-fans in the room and seeing the gentle red light of my desk lamp reflected against the out-of-place CLN paper bag in the corner, I decided to finally watch the movie.

From the get-go, the only things I knew about the movie were its intriguing title and its blessedly short runtime (just under two hours) which made me happy, thinking I could finish it in one sitting. (I ended up finishing it in two, but still.) The story opens with Ingrid at a book signing, and little did she know that in just a few minutes, her life would begin to unfold. Through a mutual friend, she finds out that an old acquaintance, Martha, has been diagnosed with cervical cancer and has only weeks—or maybe months—left to live. The next scene shows Ingrid greeting Martha rather casually, despite years of not seeing each other. 

Ingrid and Martha

I was under the impression that they were indeed friends—though not close enough to be catching up almost every single day. And yet, that’s exactly what happened early on in the movie. What I enjoyed most while watching was their conversations about life and death. Ingrid, who fears death (as reflected in her latest published book), contrasts with Martha, a former war reporter who was built to witness tragedy—and now, ironically, faces the end of her own life. There was a faint chemistry between the two women, and throughout the film, I found myself oddly anticipating that they might kiss, or that there would be at least a vague moment hinting at something queer. But to my disappointment, nothing happened. As one Letterboxd comment perfectly put it: “could’ve been gayer.” 

I guess the friendship between the two women wasn’t very convincing, as the film failed to show it and just told it to me. If they hadn’t mentioned working together at the same magazine company, I wouldn’t have even known they were supposed to be friends. Maybe I was just expecting something more intimate when they reunited, but they were so casual about it. Like, their friendship didn’t seem that deep, and it didn’t really matter whether Ingrid showed up to visit Martha or not. At that time, I was thinking their connection was only for a one-time visit from Ingrid and she wouldn’t show up again. But then again, who am I kidding? Of course she had to come back to the hospital, because that’s where the story needed to go. I just didn’t really get how deep their relationship was supposed to be, since the film didn’t convince me they were actual friends.

There were at least three or four flashbacks in the film, and all of them were from Martha's past—from being a teenager, to raising a child as a single mom, to working as a war reporter. Honestly, I didn’t see the point of putting those flashbacks in. They didn’t feel like they added anything important to what was happening in the present. I feel like they could’ve used those moments to show her and Ingrid’s friendship when they were younger, so at least I’d have a bit of an idea of what they were like back then and what led them to where they were now. Why did they lose touch? Did life just happen and they just grow apart? Nothing was said about that, and it left some holes and lapses in the story that affected how I felt about their relationship.

On a positive note, I felt more connected to them when they were just talking. They shared a lot of thoughts about life and especially death, and it felt like I was there, kind of eavesdropping on their conversation. There were some good and memorable lines from both of them that I even took screenshots of. The only problem was how they delivered those lines. Why did they feel so emotionless? They were talking about tragedies and death, but they sounded like they were just practicing their script with the camera on. It came off kind of flat and boring to me. I could hear a little change in their voices, but I couldn’t really see even the smallest twitch on their faces.

And again, the film kept telling instead of showing things to the viewers. Because of that, I couldn’t help but feel kind of disconnected at times while watching.

In the end, I couldn’t help but keep questioning their friendship, especially Ingrid’s. Sure, she took care of Martha when she agreed to stay with her next door. But it made me wonder—was she really doing it out of friendship, or was she more interested in what she could gain from it? Like, maybe using Martha’s situation as inspiration for her next book. It felt a bit unclear, and that made their relationship feel kind of complicated to me.

Red, Green, and Yellow: The Colors of Life and Death

All throughout the film, I kept noticing the colors red and green showing up a lot—in the background, on walls, and in different objects. What stood out the most was how these colors were tied to the two women themselves, especially in the clothes they wore. It felt like those colors were kind of representing something deeper and definitely has some interpretative significance.

In a narrative or cinematic setting, green is often used to symbolize life and renewal, while red is more about death and loss. In this movie, the main themes are death, mortality, and acceptance.

They even mentioned Virginia Woolf, who is known for her suicidal writings, and James Joyce’s 1914 short story The Dead, which was referenced a few times—especially its closing lines:    

“The snow is falling, falling faintly through the universe, and faintly falling on all the living and the dead.” 
In the first part, the color green was more used to Martha and color red to Ingrid (see the first two pictures below). This was during the time when Martha was still being taken care of in the hospital—doing some tests and therapy, basically experimenting on herself, as she put it.




Later on, there’s a scene where Ingrid wears both red and green. This happens when they’ve moved into the rented place but go back to Martha’s flat because she forgot her "medicine." This moment felt like the point when they had stepped into each other’s colors.


In the later parts of the film, the color roles seem to reverse. Martha often wears red while Ingrid wears green. To me, Martha wearing red now represents her acceptance of death. Ingrid in green shows that she still has hope—maybe even hope that Martha will choose to keep living.



There’s also the red door to Martha’s room. She left it open but told Ingrid that if she ever found it closed, that would mean Martha had finally died. To me, that red door doesn’t just represent a boundary between them—it feels like it represents the boundary between life and death.


We can see how the colors green and red look more vibrant when they appear together. The contrast between them is very visible, almost uncomfortable or unsettling to the eyes. They’re actually on opposite sides of the color wheel. Just like life and death, I think the use of these colors together mimics the emotional tension between the characters—two opposing forces—and creates a kind of visual friction.

I also looked up what color you get when you combine red and green. What I found is that it’s either a bright yellowish or white light (when combining lights) or a muddy brown or grayish color (for paint). Either way, the color yellow appears a little near the end of the movie, but fully shows up at the very end. 

In the final scene, all the significant colors are present in this one shot: Martha wearing death on her lips, sitting on her former life, and wrapping herself in acceptance—the in-between color that feels like peace. 

Perfect!


Before the Red Door Closes

Now that I'm almost done with my analysis, I realize I actually enjoyed the process of reviewing the film more than watching the film itself. The color associations were perfect and gave me space to brainstorm and pay closer attention to what I saw in each shot.

The film could have been better if the scenes were stitched together with smoother transitions. I felt like the execution wasn’t quite effective, and the story came off as a bit disjointed. Honestly, I had a hard time connecting with the film—especially sympathizing with Martha, even though that may not have been the intention. As for Ingrid, the actress’s performance didn’t feel convincing enough for me to cry with her when her friend died.

The late revelation about Martha’s daughter didn’t help either. Although I did notice a few cinematic parallels that were clearly inserted to prepare for the story’s conclusion, they didn’t feel strong enough to make the ending hit emotionally.

To close this off, I would like to quote one of the many on-point reviews I found on Letterboxd: "I'm going to text a few friends and explain to them the premise of this movie and then ask them, would you ever do that for me? Just to see who the real homies are."

4/28/25

Nanay's Third Death Anniversary

4/28/2025

Today is my Nanay’s third death anniversary.

It’s been three years, and it still feels strange—strange that she’s no longer here. It feels like only yesterday... but I guess it's a distant kind of yesterday, when she was still in the other room, lying on her wooden bed, its headboard wallpapered with cute teddy prints. She was breathing—heavier than a couple of years before. Her face had thinned with age, eyes unfocused, as if she was seeing more ghosts than people. Even just a sip of water took big, labored gulps through a plastic straw.

I still remember that afternoon. I thought it was just another COVID-filled day. It was the same date as today. Who would have thought that three years later, I’d still be fighting tears over her loss?

It was just another day of tapping and clicking at work. I remember the last long glance I had at her before that night. I had gone downstairs to get myself a glass of ice water. It was summer, and I felt drenched. Nanay was sleeping peacefully. Looking back now, I feel so sad. She had grown thinner than I remembered. She used to be so full of fire for a grandmother: long face, lips always tight, eyes flaring with emotion. She was an Amazona—truly. Born in 1931, a product of traumatic wars, she survived life’s cruelties and had no choice but to be angry at the world. Maybe that was the only way she knew how to live. She had a glorious past behind her, and now the only way to feel her breathe again is to remember the good old days while trying to silence the lingering guilt I still carry from the night I tried to revive her.

Nayyyy!

I let out a long, whimpering whisper of pain through her name. I thought that mumbling it into the dead air of April 28th might somehow fill her lungs again, as if her name alone could breathe life back into her while I kept pumping her chest.

I didn’t understand why they were just standing there beside me, looking down at her frail, unresponsive body—only weeping, only wiping their faces. Why weren’t they helping me call her back to life?

I wouldn’t stop. I kept pressing on her chest, even as the painful knowing crept in that... all the air inside her had already left.

Nayyyy...

One more pump.

Two more. This time, a little faster.

Three, I guess.

They were already holding my wrist to stop me. I looked at them—full of anger, frustration, and a thousand whys. Why weren’t you helping me?

Again.

I don’t remember how many pumps I did, or how numb my wrists had become. The last thing I remember was heaving, hopeless, detached from my own body. I had no energy left, not even to cry. Then... slowly... the cold began to spread through her body. The warmth of her long days had drained away. The fingers I was holding onto—lanky and lifeless—sent a shiver down my spine. In just a split second, she depleted. Her cheeks vanished from her face. Her mouth hung open, softly, as if her spirit had slipped out from there and joined the evening breeze. Her whole frame looked like those skeleton models I used to see in science class back in grade school.

That night, it was hard for me to cry and because of that, I felt like I was a bad granddaughter. We were too busy accommodating visitors to properly mourn her. It was 2022, and we were still under lockdown. And it wasn’t the kind of funeral Nanay deserved.

We offered forced smiles, instant coffee, biscuits, and small, polite words. We were only allowed three days for the wake. And for those three days, we were tired but moving—sad and busy—running papers, counting paper money. Three days felt too short to mourn her, yet weirdly long, like the funeral had gone on forever.

And during those three days, I didn’t cry. I didn’t even peek into her coffin. I didn’t want to let her go. The face I wanted to remember was the one from when she was still alive—the one always frowning, scowling, irritated by life, by the noise of the neighborhood, even by the sound of people breathing. But those faces were also full of endurance, forgiveness, and love. They were the faces that, even after three years, I still wish and pray to see... if only in a nightmare.

If ghosts were real, how I wish she would haunt me. She was a scary Asian granny but she was exactly what I need.

On the last night of her funeral, I cried finally. My body shook from such intense weeping I thought I could die. It was the first time I saw her face since she left. She was pretty (still pretty scary hehe). No amount of cosmetics could hide the loveliness dressed in anger. She looked at peace, as if simply taking one of her routine afternoon naps under the blazing summer sun.

It has been three years, and everything is still so clear to me. So clear that it feels like the Thea who tried to revive her that night never really left that moment...stuck there until today. I can still see her—lost, gawking at that deserted bed, questioning the world and blaming the heavens over and over. She’s still there, with no lights on, alone. Maybe afraid. Maybe already used to the dark. Sometimes she still struggles to take even the smallest step, to open the door and come out.

It has already been three years, and it’s still heavy. Still strange.

Sometimes it feels like she’s just away—maybe on vacation. Maybe she went back to Cebu, her hometown. Or maybe she walked to Baclaran Church to pray. Maybe she’s just strolling around the neighborhood, scolding street kids for being too loud.

Three years have passed, and I’m still here. Still carrying guilt for all the things I did wrong to her.

Nay, I still haven’t had a good cry.

I wonder... when will I be able to?

I miss you… so much that sometimes I wish I were just there with you already.

Why does life make us crumble?

Why does it have to be this hard?

Why does it feel like the only way to live is to survive?

Do I even deserve to be happy—or not, because I was a bad person? Why is it so easy to believe the worst about yourself?

It’s so hard sometimes, Nay.

4/27/25

House of Hummingbird

4/27/2025

There’s really something about watching and finishing a movie on a Sunday afternoon. House of Hummingbird had been sitting in my Letterboxd watchlist for quite some time. Like many other films—and like the usual excuse I give whenever I can’t find time to watch something—life happened. Sure, it did. But life happens every day, so deep down, I knew I was just making excuses. I recently shared that I’ve been trying to live with more slowness, softness, and stillness. And yet, there I was again, spiraling into another round of doom scrolling. It usually takes me days to convince myself that it’s okay to slip up now and then—but really, I was just tolerating my own indolence. So, a few days ago, I made a conscious effort to get back on track: starting the day with a 10-minute stretching routine before shifting into work mode, eating meals on time, and taking my vitamins to jumpstart the day. When work gets too intense, I make sure to take small breaks: breathing deeply, stepping away from my desk, playing with Pino. Since summer’s been especially harsh and unforgiving in the afternoons, I’ve made it a habit to shower during my lunch break and again before bed. It helps cool down the lingering heat clinging to my skin. After clocking out (and if I’m in a decent mood) I’ll clean the floor downstairs and wash whatever dishes are left in the sink. I have a rule: no lying down until I actually intend to nap. So maybe I come off like a clean freak, but really, I’m not. I just like having a rhythm. I spend the rest of the afternoon on things I enjoy: picking up The Goldfinch from where I last left off, checking a film off my watchlist, and making sure to squeeze in a bit of Duolingo time learning Japanese.


I usually take a nap for an hour or so, then get myself ready to take Pino out for a late-afternoon walk. After we return home, everything flows naturally into our evening routine. Before ending the day, I always do another round of stretching, followed by a journal entry.

Sounds hectic?

Of course, I know life is unpredictable, and it’s important to leave space for spontaneity. Still, ever since I started practicing slow living, I’ve felt more grounded and focused. I no longer spend so much time on activities that don’t add value to my day. This shift has brought clarity and I’ve realized I’m not actually busy; I’ve just been managing my time poorly. In the span of a week or so, I managed to finish two movies—Everything Everywhere All at Once and The Life List. And today, just earlier, House of Hummingbird. House of Hummingbird is the kind of film I’d place beside Perfect Days and Paterson. It portrays the quiet, imperfect life of a family—one that feels real. They cry awkwardly at the dinner table, bicker and fight, and secretly wish they had the freedom to live apart. It captures the messiness of living under the same roof, where love and tension quietly coexist.


One of the most relatable and remarkable scenes for me is when Dae-Hoon, the second child and only son, breaks down near the end of the film. It happens on the same day the Seongsu Bridge collapses. Soo-Hee, the eldest, had taken the route where the bus involved in the accident passed through. To the family’s immense relief, she survived...only because she was running late that day. At dinner, their father casually brings up the incident, trying to downplay the tension and lighten the mood, even as everyone remains visibly shaken. I didn’t expect Dae-Hoon to be the one to break. He reveals how deeply affected he was by the accident, despite how emotionally distant the family had seemed from one another. It reminded me of a similar moment with their father. When he took Eun-Hee, the youngest, to the hospital and learned she needed surgery for a lump behind her right ear. Both were stunned, but it was the father who appeared more shaken. Like Dae-Hoon, it was unexpected to see him cry. These rare cracks in their stoic family dynamic made the emotional undercurrent of the film feel all the more powerful.


I would say that their family is very much like ours. I grew up in a home where it felt more natural not to talk things out—where we let things pass until they faded from memory. We were awkward when faced with moments that called for visible vulnerability. We often fled from opportunities to show our real and raw emotions. When someone cried, it made everyone uncomfortable, simply because we never learned how to handle those moments. I still remember the night I broke down in tears. It was during pandemic and my work started at 7 a.m., and by the time it reached 9 p.m. (which is well past my eight working hours) I was still pushing through, trying to meet my quota. I was exhausted, hopeless, desperate for rest, but couldn’t stop. In the middle of my frustration, I accidentally broke my eyeglasses. The lenses popped out of the frame, and I couldn’t see anymore. I hated my life in that moment. Instead of forcing myself to keep working, I decided to take a shower and clear my mind. But even that didn’t go right. The towel I needed was hanging from the ceiling, and I couldn’t find the hook I use to grab it. Frustrated all over again, I gave up, slumped to the floor, and cried hard. I couldn’t hold it in any longer. And as expected, they just watched me. No one handed me a towel. No one offered comfort. No one even asked what was wrong. They just whispered among themselves in the background, then quietly went downstairs to eat dinner. I didn’t get mad. Of course not. Why would I? We simply weren’t raised to cry in front of each other. It was never part of our home.


So, I found that scene deeply relatable. I guess, at that moment, Dae-Hoon just couldn’t hold it in any longer. It had become too heavy, too much to suppress even if he didn’t want to let it show.



The next scene takes place the day after their parents had a fight. That night, they argued over their eldest daughter, and in a burst of anger, their mother accidentally hit their father. The night lamp shattered, and shards of glass cut into his forearm. Later, in their shared room, Eun-Hee asked her sister why their family was so messed up. Soo-Hee didn’t answer the question directly, but simply said that maybe they should all live separately. The next morning, Eun-Hee walked out of her room to find her parents laughing together in front of the TV, as if nothing had happened the night before. And just like Eun-Hee, I’ve felt that same strange comfort whenever I saw my own parents make amends after a fight. It warmed my heart, bringing a sense of relief. But at the same time, it left me wondering—is that what being married is like? Do couples argue so intensely that they seem like they want to kill each other, only to laugh together again once the anger has died down? It reminded me of a scene from Marriage Story, starring Scarlett Johansson and Adam Driver. There’s a moment where their fight escalates into shouting, cursing, and bitter accusations. Then, in the heat of the moment, Adam’s character breaks down and screams that he wishes she were dead. The words catch even him by surprise. Scarlett’s character is stunned too but there’s something tender in her expression, as if she understood the pain behind his words, and knew he didn’t truly mean it. As Adam collapses into tears, she quietly approaches and embraces him. It was heartbreaking.


Even though it happened a long time ago, I can still hear the sounds of my parents' fights. The crashing of plates hitting the floor. The sharp, painful edge in my mother’s voice. The silence of my father, who would just sit on the bed, eyes fixed on a basketball game on TV, trying to ignore her outburst. My siblings and I, as if by routine, would quietly head downstairs to our cousins’ room, trying to distance ourselves though we could still hear everything. I used to brush it off, but the truth is, those arguments stayed with me. They shaped how I viewed married life, even as a child. And while the impact still lingers, I’ve come to think: maybe it’s better to hear them argue than to watch them ignore each other completely? Just like in the movie scene, I’d see them the next day—talking, laughing, acting as if nothing had happened. I guess... that’s just how some married couples are?


Before the family found out about Eun-Hee’s lump behind her right ear, we saw her quietly going to the doctor on her own. At just fifteen, she took the bus by herself and faced the possibility of bad news...alone. I don’t think I could’ve done that at her age. Commuting by myself, seeing a doctor despite all the worst-case scenarios running through my head? I would’ve needed my mom with me.


What struck me even more was that Eun-Hee didn’t get angry at her parents for not being there. She stayed calm, composed, and brave. Earlier in the film, there was a scene where she approached her mom, who was resting in the living room, and mentioned the discomfort she was feeling in her ear. Her mother acknowledged it, but she didn’t seem too concerned. There was no sense of urgency, instead she quickly shifted the conversation and even asked Eun-Hee to put pain relief patches on her shoulder blades. That moment felt painfully familiar. There were many times when I told my mom I wasn’t feeling well, only for her to brush it off or redirect the conversation. She would often say something like, “I feel that way too. I just drink this or that and I’m fine.” Even now, it still happens. So over time, I stopped telling her when something felt wrong with my body. I learned to keep it to myself.


Watching House of Hummingbird feels like watching your own family reflected in a mirror. It captures the quiet, sometimes suffocating rhythms of a household with an average life status. One where everyone knows each other too well, down to the point of getting irritated by something as small as the way someone breathes. Growing up, I used to wish I had a room of my own. Somewhere I could feel my emotions freely and release them as they came. But we didn’t have rooms. The only privacy we had, if you could even call it that, was the small spot we each occupied on a shared bed. The only safe spaces to be vulnerable were either in the bathroom or somewhere outside the house. There were moments when we hated each other. And many more moments when I wished I came from a different kind of family—one that would let me speak my thoughts without being dismissed. A family that would really listen. One that celebrated small wins, showed care openly, and offered emotional support without hesitation. At home, we were on our own. We fought our own battles in silence, too busy surviving to look after each other emotionally. This movie quietly, yet powerfully, reflects that life. My life. My family. It’s a poem told through visual metaphors, gentle cinematography, and a masterful use of silence. It teaches you how to understand life without the noise.

It’s beautiful, in short.


It carries the color of something vintage and like the faded hue of an old newspaper at times. Its sound is like the rustling of leaves at night, when the streetlights glow in a soft, warm orange, breathing gently into the stillness of the dark, star-dotted sky. Its scent reminds me of coffee, rich and lingering, its steam hanging in midair, suspended in moments of stillness, even amidst the low hum of conversations in a crowded space. Like Eun-Hee, when she sat down to write a letter to her favorite teacher, Young-Ji, she asked—not just her, but perhaps the universe, or maybe simply herself—a question that echoed my own quiet wonderings: “Will my life start to shine someday?”



The same teacher, during a night stroll with Eun-Hee, once shared something about hands. She said: "Whenever you feel sad and tired, just look at your fingers. When you can’t feel anything, move your fingers." That scene hit me deeply. When we’re feeling down, it often feels like there’s no point in continuing. Everything becomes bland, hopeless, and colorless. We can feel stagnant—unable to move, incapable of doing anything. But when she said, “Just move your fingers,” I found myself doing exactly that. Sometimes, when we feel like we can’t do anything, even the simple act of moving a finger can remind us that we can do something. It doesn’t matter if it's something grand or just the tiniest movement. We don’t need to perform something extraordinary to prove our capability. Sometimes, even the smallest action, like moving a finger, takes effort. It requires courage. And that’s enough. Life doesn’t have to be extraordinary. Sometimes, life is found in the simplest, often overlooked moments. Life is life, no matter what.